Get Out and Do
After a few weeks,
I urge people recovering from loss to get back into a routine," says
psychiatrist and Boston University professor Bessel A. Vanderkolk."It's important to force yourself to
concentrate on things other than your hurt." Consider these activities:
Join a support group. Once you've made the decision to "get on with life", you'll need someone to talk to
....
and the most effective kind of conversation can be with someone else who has undergone a severe test.
Read. When you can focus after the initial shock, reading-- especially self-help books
can offer inspiration as well as relaxation.
Keep a Journal. Many find comfort in creating an ongoing record of their experiences. At best it can serve as a kind of self-therapy.
Plan events. The idea that there are things to look forward to reinforces that you are forging ahead into a fresh future. Schedule that trip you've been postponing.
Learn new skills. Take a course at a community college,or take up a new hobby or sport. You have a new life ahead:any new skill will complement it.
Reward yourself. During highly stressful times, even the simplest daily things -
getting up, showering, fixing something to eat- can seem discouraging. Consider every accomplishment, no matter how small, a victory to be rewarded.
Exercise. Physical activity can be especially therapeutic. "Exercise gets you out of your head and your troubles,"Aronoff explains, "and it allows you to experience your body with your two feet on the ground."
走出困境，振作起来
精神病专家、波士顿大学教授巴塞尔·A·万德科克说：“几周后，我鼓励人们从失落中恢复过来进入正常状态。迫使你自己把注意力集中到事情上而不是集中到你的伤痛上，这一点是非常重要的。”考虑以下行动：加，入一个相互支持的团体。一旦你做出决定"继续生活”，你需要找个人谈谈。而最有效的谈话方式是与其他那些经历过苦痛的人谈话。
读书。在经历了最初的创伤后，你能集中注意力的方式是读书，尤其是自助自立书，因为它能给人以激励和放松。
记日记。许多人通过持续记录他们的经历来寻求安慰。至少它可以作为一种自我治疗。
做计划。认为有许多事情值得期待的观点刺激你快速奔向一个全新的未来。对被你推迟的旅行重新做出计划。
学习新技术。在社区大学上课或培养一种新兴趣或运动。新生活就在你面前，任何新技术会成为你新生活的补充。
奖赏你自己。在压力大的时候，即使是最简单的日常琐事一…—起床、洗澡、做饭也惹人心烦。想一下每一次胜利完成的事情，不管它是多么小的成功，只要是胜利就应受奖励。
锻炼。体育运动尤其有助于治疗。“体育运动能帮你从令你头痛的事及困难中解脱出来。”阿隆诺夫解释说，“它允许你通过双脚立地来感受你的身体。”